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Completing Promises 2017

Posted on Jan 11, 2018 by in Structure, Success
Completing Promises 2017

unsplash-logoKelly Jean

So, dear friends, I've been doing a lot of my own work around creating 2018, and have taken a little time to get a better perspective. I've spoken to my coach, taken actions I would not have otherwise, and already have broken promises to clean up. I've listened again to Jim Rohn's Best Year Ever. I've shared some of his ideas with my youngest son, and seen my second take on a daily reflection before he goes to bed. And finally, or perhaps most recently, I've listened to Ben Adkin's Better Life Sequence for 2018, which I'll come back to in the next few days.

For now, we want to really get 2017 behind us and complete, and we are going to do this by working with our promises:

  • Make a list of the daily/weekly promises you made in 2017. Feel free to include things like brushing your teeth, getting your kids out in the morning, walking the dog, getting to work or the gym, doing the weekly reports. Don't worry if you missed a few days. You still have your teeth, and you are the kind of person who brushes. Acknowledge that. And if you need someone else to say thank you, ask for them to. Acknowledge where you fell short. If it affected or had to do with someone else, clean it up with them.
  • Take a look at where your partner, family, or friends have kept their promises to you. Reach out and say thank you.
  • Make a list of the big promises, to yourself or others. This could include getting to the gym, taking a vacation, getting a raise or the new job.
  • Acknowledge yourself for the steps you took and the wins you racked up.
  • Now for each promise to yourself that you did not keep, ask yourself if it is one you want to keep. Maybe you said it because it sounded right or good, but it's really not who you are. Let those go. And if it's one that you do want to renew, write it down for 2018. And if you made promises to yourself that are really about others (like to earn enough so your wife doesn't have to worry), share those with the affected parties and get them complete as well.
  • For each promise to another that you did not keep, first note if it was one you really should have made. Sometimes we knew we wouldn't the minute we promised. Either way, reach out to the people affected and clean it up. If there is a new promise to make, make it, but only if you intend to keep it. For those you knew you shouldn't have made, you want to start looking at what you can bring in 2018 so that you stop doing this.

The important thing here is to get free. If you acknowledge it and get it complete, you won't let these be a drag on you going forward.

That's it, and should give you enough work for the weekend. We'll be back next week.

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What's So

Posted on Dec 29, 2017 by in Structure, Success
What's So

unsplash-logoThought Catalog

So your assignment today is getting a handle on what's so. So take out your journal (and if you don't have one yet, create one; any notebook will do), put down today's date and just jot down the following:

  • Your Age
  • Your Height
  • Your Weight
  • Relationship Status
  • Number of Kids
  • Where you live: address, type, size, rent or own.
  • Job title
  • Your Current Salary/Monthly Income
  • Current Assets: money in the bank, current receivables, IRAs, 401(k) plans, stocks, real estate, car, jewelry, etc.
  • Current Obligations: rent, taxes, utilities, memberships, school tuition, alimony/child support, etc.
  • Current Debt: credit card(s), mortgage(s), car or personal loans, installment sale obligations
  • Degrees, Certifications and Licenses
  • Other titles or achievements
  • Physical achievements, challenges met, crafts projects completed
  • Status of anything else you keep track of (how much you bench press, the state of your beanie baby collection, how often you traveled or saw family in the last year, etc.)

Don't judge! Don't start looking at whether you think it's enough or whether you thought you'd be somewhere else. All you want to do with this is acknowledge what's so.

Now you want to acknowledge yourself for everything it took to get here, and for the work you did to have what you have and be who and where you are.

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Creating Your Life in 2018

Posted on Dec 28, 2017 by in Structure, Success, Success, Structure, Success, Welcome
Creating Your Life in 2018

Dear Friends:

Originally posted to help you create 2018, this formula, and the sequence that follows, can be tried on any time. Sign on for a handful of exercise to take a look at where you are and determine where you want to go. Get those two figured out and you—with our help, if you want—can create a plan to get there.

We expect that some of you don't need any more than this reminder to set your year up. If you are one of those, we acknowledge you and invite you to get on with it.

For some of us though, we know a little nudge now will set us on a course to a much different place by the end of the year.

If you are one of these, in a few moments we'll invite you to get on our list so we can provide that nudge.

For some it's much worse. You're surprised you are even here at all. And maybe you're a bit like I was: Maybe you've made New Year's Resolutions. You've stopped doing that. You are so sure you'll fail, you don't want to make any promises at all. It's just too painful.

And if you are one of these, I'm glad you are here at all. It suggests you've still got at least a glimmer of hope. It suggests that at some level you know you can beat your demons. You, make that we, know that there's a bigger life available for us, and we're ready to support each other in creating it.

So for those who want a little nudge, and those who haven't given up, for those willing to take on that something else is possible, we invite you to sign on to our list. We'll be sending you a series of prompts for thought and action as we start 2018.

And here's our first: What did you do that you are proud of in 2017? Be generous with yourself. It could be that you made your first million, or your first dollar, that you married, or just went on a date, or just that you are still here to start 2018. There is no accomplishment too small if it means something to you. Please feel free to share in the comments below.

And in the meantime, sign on to:

Let's Create 2018

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