So, dear friends, I've been doing a lot of my own work around creating 2018, and have taken a little time to get a better perspective. I've spoken to my coach, taken actions I would not have otherwise, and already have broken promises to clean up. I've listened again to Jim Rohn's Best Year Ever. I've shared some of his ideas with my youngest son, and seen my second take on a daily reflection before he goes to bed. And finally, or perhaps most recently, I've listened to Ben Adkin's Better Life Sequence for 2018, which I'll come back to in the next few days.
For now, we want to really get 2017 behind us and complete, and we are going to do this by working with our promises:
- Make a list of the daily/weekly promises you made in 2017. Feel free to include things like brushing your teeth, getting your kids out in the morning, walking the dog, getting to work or the gym, doing the weekly reports. Don't worry if you missed a few days. You still have your teeth, and you are the kind of person who brushes. Acknowledge that. And if you need someone else to say thank you, ask for them to. Acknowledge where you fell short. If it affected or had to do with someone else, clean it up with them.
- Take a look at where your partner, family, or friends have kept their promises to you. Reach out and say thank you.
- Make a list of the big promises, to yourself or others. This could include getting to the gym, taking a vacation, getting a raise or the new job.
- Acknowledge yourself for the steps you took and the wins you racked up.
- Now for each promise to yourself that you did not keep, ask yourself if it is one you want to keep. Maybe you said it because it sounded right or good, but it's really not who you are. Let those go. And if it's one that you do want to renew, write it down for 2018. And if you made promises to yourself that are really about others (like to earn enough so your wife doesn't have to worry), share those with the affected parties and get them complete as well.
- For each promise to another that you did not keep, first note if it was one you really should have made. Sometimes we knew we wouldn't the minute we promised. Either way, reach out to the people affected and clean it up. If there is a new promise to make, make it, but only if you intend to keep it. For those you knew you shouldn't have made, you want to start looking at what you can bring in 2018 so that you stop doing this.
The important thing here is to get free. If you acknowledge it and get it complete, you won't let these be a drag on you going forward.
That's it, and should give you enough work for the weekend. We'll be back next week.
Comment from: Member
As an example, I contacted an old friend. He was feeling all sorts of guilty that he hadn’t responded to a few calls I’d made to him last year. And the more he didn’t call, the guiltier he felt and that kept him from following up even more.
It was crazy. He’s my brother from another mother, and he couldn’t call to say hello.
Clearing that space was just such a nice way to start the year.