I had a conversation with a good friend of mine this week. He's a very successful lawyer, one of the best I know. He's so good that business comes to him. He's also well read and enjoys literature. I invited him to take me on as his coach.
He hasn't taken me up on my invite yet, but he did choose to share with me, and I was impressed; so I share with you.
About two years ago, he was offered some business, six figures worth. He looked into his life, and how he was spending his time, and said to himself, “I could take this on, or I could spend this time reading and exploring literary criticism.” He chose the latter, and since then, he's set aside some time for himself every week to do just that.
So I was speaking to a programmer friend of mine the other day. She works on a web site for a company that provides mail handling services. As I was on the phone with her, I looked at the most recent iteration of the website.
It's pretty at full size, but I scaled it down to see what would happen. By the time it got down to even tablet size, the site became unusable. (I know, I know, this site has the same flaw; I'm working on it.) This company helps people manage their mail and allows remote access, thus saving time and providing peace of mind. I mentioned to my friend that it doesn't scale, it doesn't look right on a smaller screen. What went on in my mind is that if a prospect comes to this site on a mobile device, he'll leave before this company can deliver its message, make its offering, or make a sale.
It's Tuesday, and I've a hundred unfinished ideas that are not ready for a post, but it's Tuesday and it's my day for a post; so I'll write, and I'll keep my word, and I'll win my game.
Because here's the thing. Even if this isn't my best work, getting it out is how I win. And I'm learning that winning is what keeps me going and playing harder and better next time. And one of my games is to post once a week.
Another of the games I am playing right now is rowing three million meters this Concept2 ranking year, which runs May 1 to April 30. I took it on last year as well, and failed miserably. Last year I started alright, but every time I missed a day, three million loomed larger until I gave up. I ended last year just over a million meters.
I've mentioned the folks at Lavi Furniture Industries. I pray at a pew built there. Our synagogue has grown, and my pew is a more recent purchase. It's in the style of the previous pews, but it's not the same color as the old ones. I asked our synagogue warden and was informed that the old color was just not available and this was the closest they had.
I had a little trouble getting my mind around the idea that the company couldn't put in an order for a few gallons of the color and finish they once supplied. But I have since learned that not being bothered seems to be part of the company culture.
So I received a comment in an e-mail this week:
You confirm exactly what's wrong with most people doing coaching – a lot of presumptuousness despite a surprising lack of success in their previous endeavors.
In the past, a comment like this might have sent me reeling for a week. For all my training, it's only been a very short time since I've come to embrace the notion that the only way I can fail is if I fail to act in the first place. Until I came around to this, wow, would I have identified with his statement. I would have felt exposed, and I would have crawled under a rock to hide.