Category: "General"

Not Knowing

Posted on May 26, 2015 by in General

I had all this rage in me before, and now it's not. It's been sucked in to become another glaze of malaise.

So what's bothering me. I was up until close to 4:30 working on a house that I don't really want to have anything to do with. Then I get on the phone with Amy, a coach. In discussing the house, I tell Amy my Princess Bride story, that as Sharleen and I sat there in the architect's office, I have this feeling of having a year of my life sucked out of me, and I finally understood the ridiculous machine in that movie.

So Amy asks:

“Do you share this with Sharleen?”
“Of course not. Why would I do that?”

“Does Sharleen knows how you feel about being here?”
“She does.”

“So why are you here?”

“Well, when I met Sharleen twenty years ago, I didn't have any clear vision for my future. She did, and I married her knowing that. So I don't really have any right to supersede that now. It wasn't part of the plan. That, and I think it's good for the kids here.”

In other words, I completely absolve myself of all responsibility for how things are in my life. Instead, I get to be a victim of my circumstances and the choices of a younger me, like I have no say in the matter any more.

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What They Think

Posted on May 18, 2015 by in General

I just love my friend Sara Lou Cooper. She sends out a cue a week to keep me engaged in my life. This week, the cue was themed “What they think.”

Here is my response and my invite to her, and you::

  • My friend's think I am… really smart.

  • My family think I am… not using my talents, of which there are many.

  • My kids think I am… a great dad.

  • My partner thinks I am… frustrated and unhappy, but smart, and able to do anything.

  • I think I am…

    • when I let myself wallow, stuck in the wrong place, behind the eight ball, a person who never misses a chance to miss a chance, a victim of a long history of uninspired choices, afraid of my own shadow, and pretty much a waste of space.

    • when I'm not in a bad place, under-appreciated, under-utilized, unable to communicate my value such that I can engage others, and just unable to make a difference.

    • when I am in a good place, making a difference in other people's lives, and adding value that is appreciated and changing the course of the world, but still worried that I am on the wrong path.

    • most of the time, a great dad; this is the one thing I know I've got right, except when it comes to setting an example of leading a life of fulfillment, satisfaction, inspiration, excitement, and fearlessness. There, I still have work to do.

    • thoughtful, kind, smart, wise, different, creative, attentive, knowledgeable, compassionate, direct, faithful, loving, and, when I'm not getting in my own way, capable, persistent, and unrelenting, especially when it comes to others

But for all that, here's the thing about what I think or what I think other people think. All that goes out the window when I am in action. When I am engaged, and particularly when I am in a state of flow, the thoughts fall into the background, and I actually get to make the impact that I otherwise might think about.

So now I want you to do something, for me as well as for you. I am not coaching enough, and I want to be action. If you are here, this is probably true for you too. So do us both a favor. Carve out an hour and schedule a consultation with me. Use coupon code GreatValue to get your consultation for $50 instead of $500. If we choose to work together, it's a call a week (anywhere from 15 minutes to as long as it takes), taking one week off a month, with e-mail and phone availability as needed outside of our regular call.

As my answers above suggest, I am an expert as self-sabotage and making my life harder than it needs to be. This gives me a keen eye for other's tendencies to do the same. I am also clear that the path out of this is action that honors the commitments in our lives.

What you get is a powerful coach to push you into the zone of adventure and out-sized results, in all the domains in your life. What I get is another set of actions I can put in my calendar to make the world the kind of place I think it ought to be.

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It is Better that a Boy Should Break his Neck . . .

Posted on Apr 28, 2015 by in General

A while back, a child of one of my neighbors was exchanging punches with another one around the four square court in front of my house. I intervened to stop this. The other child stopped, and started to walk away. This one didn't and starting following to complete what had been started. As he was about to engage again, I picked him up and carried him to his house with the intention of engaging in a conversation there. Instead, I got an earful from an angry mother about how I shouldn't be interfering in the affairs of children, and that I should let them work it out. So I've stayed clear.

Some time later, this family was visiting a nearby community. While there, their two year old wandered off and fell in a pool. That child was found unconscious some time later, and has been in the hospital since.

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My Year of Plenty

Posted on Jan 9, 2015 by in General

My theme for this year is success, both financially and in making a profound difference in life and business.

Last week, I asked a number of questions. This week I answered them for myself. How I want to feel at the end of this year is successful, happy, and fulfilled. What will help me achieve this is bringing the possibility of success, happiness and fulfilment to my life. Now, I know this sounds like mental gymnastics, but bear with me a few minutes and I think it will make sense.

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The Eight Minute Power Call

Posted on Dec 23, 2014 by in General

What you can accomplish in the next year, or ten, and what can we do to make that happen?

I start with the old saw that “people overestimate what they can do in a day and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” I think it's a good point of departure. Some of us start on big projects, become overwhelmed, and give up. Others drive ourselves, regardless of the impact on other areas of our life, to accomplish what we said we would. But some, and these I consider wise, recognize that any project, big or small, is just the sum of many smaller steps all designed with that particular goal in mind, and if we take just a few steps every day, in a year (or ten) we'll have come quite far.

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